The J-Spot

Why we voluntarily take other people’s shit A client once said to me, “I’ve taken so many drugs, in my past, that when something bad starts happening I just stop a second and ask myself, What did you take? Is this a relapse?” “Honestly,” I told him, “that’s always the safest bet.” Take a second —   think . You may find that, instead of a handful of mushroom caps, you’ve instead just taken a toxic dose of someone else’s bullshit. There’s a little wooden sign in our living room, that my wife had a friend make us that says, ‘The secret is to take a breath and be thankful.’ It was the only piece of advice she ever lifted off of me, besides, stop taking those damn Xanax’s. Ten years later, I sometimes regret I said it! All jokes aside, taking a second before you do anything is probably the best advice you’ll hear this week. But hearing isn’t exactly the same as taking it all in, now is it? That’s what this article is all about. Too often, we take what people say, right down the hatch....

     The real hard questions to answer surface at different times throughout our lives, and are often picked at with tweezers like a splinter, until they are driven too deep back down into the quick to retrieve them, just to resurface again at a later time when we've grown more intellectually. Yet, even then, as conscious beings, we still struggle to come up with logical guesses to the riddle that we are of so large a part. Particularly because, in part, we are asking questions about something that we have no outside experience of.      With age, and the cooling of our hormonal furnaces, wisdom eventually gives way to an acceptance of complete ignorance. As derived from Socrates, "The only thing I know is that I know nothing." For how can we prove anything at all if no basis for proof ever exists? There are, of course, those like the Great Thomas Hobbes who grasp tight to the mechanistic view of a Universe, in which nothing immaterial exists, and that e...

     Happiness is something that can only be maintained through mental and emotional sacrifice. Theologians will debate that sacrifice and happiness are two entirely differing sides of emotional spectrum—especially when those theologians are getting something for their opinions! Their idea of happiness and sacrifice may in-fact be as simple-mindedly synonymous to the phrase 'give and get'. or 'loss and gain'.      Religious and spiritual sects are separated into two basic beliefs on loss and gain. Of course, there are those who maintain belief in an entity, possibly self-regulated meta-physically and, who maintains a weighted perception of the individual as they make choices throughout daily activities. Then there are also those who believe that everything has been stewed up from some primordial soup and that no one judges actions of individuals because everything is just stuff, and we are mere electrically charged meat. Pleases take note : I make loose c...

     Happiness is something that can only be maintained through mental and emotional sacrifice. Theologians will debate that sacrifice and happiness are two entirely differing sides of emotional spectrum—especially when those theologians are getting something for their opinions! Their idea of happiness and sacrifice may in-fact be as simple-mindedly synonymous to the phrase 'give and get'. or 'loss and gain'.      Religious and spiritual sects are separated into two basic beliefs on loss and gain. Of course, there are those who maintain belief in an entity, possibly self-regulated meta-physically and, who maintains a weighted perception of the individual as they make choices throughout daily activities. Then there are also those who believe that everything has been stewed up from some primordial soup and that no one judges actions of individuals because everything is just stuff, and we are mere electrically charged meat. Pleases take note : I make loose...